Friday, January 30, 2009

Love.

Love is the greatest feeling in the world when you know that the person you love loves you back.

But then love can be the worst feeling in the world when you're madly in love with someone who doesn't feel a thing for you.

I've been in love 2 times so far. At least. . .in my terms, it was love.

When I think of love, I think of that funny feeling in my stomach when I think about him or being around him. I think about how he is the first person I think of every time I wake up and the last person I think of before I go to sleep. I think about the funny smile my lips create when I see him but I hide it. I think about how I'm not able to get him off my mind for long.

But there are also, like all things, the negative side of love.

When I think of the negative of love, I think about the heartaches I have to go through. I think about the tears I cry at night. I think about how I don't cross his mind when he crosses mine a million times. I think about how he'll never be mine.

I'm going to hate this Valentine's Day. My anniversary with him was the 14th of every month. And ironically, our 8th month would have been February 14th : Valentine's Day. Now that it's over, I'm dreading it more than ever. When the day comes, I'm going to be suffering it from the start til the end. I guarantee there will be at least one tear I'll be shedding on that day. I'm going to be so envious of the couples around me, how sweet and cute they look together. It'll break my heart because I could have been one of them but I'm not.

The worst thing is, though he had strong feelings for me since freshman year and I had feelings for him too, he's over me now while I'm still lingering here in the pain and the hurt.

I haven't cried about this relationship for a month. . .now the tears are back.

"In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing."
-- Mignon McLaughlin

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

True friends. . .can you define that for me, please?

Always there for you when you need them most. Always there to make you laugh. Always there, ready to punch out whoever hurt you. Always there to hear you out. Always there to support you on whatever you need support on.There's plenty more to that.

But truthfully, I used to have someone like that but I don't anymore. He fit into each of those descriptions. But he's someone else now. I don't know him anymore.

The term "best friend" is thrown around like a ball. I don't have a best friend. I don't have someone with open arms who I can turn to every single time. I don't have anyone who supports me 110%. Some call me a best friend but don't mean it. I'm tired of it. Why say something you don't mean?

I wish I had someone who was always there for me and I'll be there for them too. But it doesn't matter. People walk in and out of my life like a quick visit to wherever. I don't have anyone who will extend their visit and maybe even stay, and I probably never will.

"A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are."
--Unknown

Friday, January 23, 2009

Time flies.

Finals are finally OVER. No more not knowing what to study for, no more going crazy through all the chapters I've learned, no more of that. Just a three-day weekend sits in front of me.

Though finals were a killer, this week was probably the most I've laughed in a couple of months. I forgot the feeling of how much FUN and how much it feels good to laugh like how I did this week. Thanks to a friend who I've only started to talk to again for about 2 weeks, made me have more than a week's worth of HILARIOUS comments & jokes & videos. [: Thank you.

So, time flies so fast. It felt like just 3 hours ago that I was just freaking out because finals were starting. Now it's over. Before I know it, it's going to be the end of the school year. . .& college-searching starts.

Sometimes I stop & watch time pass by. Every hour, every minute, every second is wasted if it is used carelessly. I wish I spend my time wisely, but in the end, I just waste my time on so many things. Time doesn't stand still for anyone. That's what I've understood this year. Why waste time on feeling sad & helpless when you could replace those seconds on doing something you love? Though sometimes I can't help it & stop a few seconds to be sad about something, I try to tell myself that time is the most important thing for us & it shouldn't be used on useless feelings like that. I'm trying to reminisce less, & getting into the moment more. I'm trying to be more active in events that will probably never come by me for a 2nd time.

My heart is mending but is mended loosely so far. It still aches once in a while from the memories. But right now. . .I don't think I like anyone. . .but it doesn't matter. Why should I like anyone who I would just be wasting my time on, especially after he says no to me? Haha. So lame.

It's almost a month since my grandma's passing. It felt like it was just last week that it happened. Again. . .times passes quickly before our eyes.

"Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't
own it, but you can use it. You can't keep
it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it
you can never get it back."
--Harvey MacKay

Monday, January 19, 2009

Disappointment.

It's funny how things can go up & get so much better one day, then plunge down the next.

The day after the last post, things were getting rocky and then everything fell. I was, and still am, disappointed in a few things.

Sometimes, I wonder why I should care so much for people who don't even take my care into consideration. It's just wasting my time. I also sometimes give advice which seem like it will actually work, but people just brush off that advice and go on as they are. WHY SHOULD I WASTE MY TIME AND BREATH ON PEOPLE WHO DON'T CARE ABOUT A WORD I SAY? Maybe it's because I give too much care to others. Maybe they just don't NEED my care. Well this is how I am as a friend. I CARE and will be there for anyone in an INSTANT. Maybe they want me as less of a friend? Then I'll just give less care to those who don't need it & save up that care for someone else who does.

Also, some people are so arrogant and a joke. They try to argue with me when all they do is contradict themselves and say things that don't make any sense, just to try to win the argument. Those people are frikkingg HILARIOUS. They just make a joke of themselves. And they say that I'm contradicting? I don't contradict in my arguments. I stick with the facts and stick with the side I'm supporting. And they say that I said things before and now I'm contradicting them? Well that's called CHANGING. I don't stay the same person and have the same feelings I once was and had before. I REALIZE things that I haven't before.

In the last post, I said I might be interested in someone? Not anymore. Forget having feelings for someone. All it does is break me inside in the end.

Finals are coming up and that's a disappointment too. I'm not ready at all. I'd like to be, but it's frustrating. I just want this week to fast forward.

I'm tired of things that I put too much effort in. It's totally pointless.

"The sudden disappointment of a hope leaves a scar which the ultimate fulfillment of that hope never entirely removes."
--Thomas Hardy

Thursday, January 15, 2009

The brighter side of things.

Today's looking up just a little bit. . .for now.

I haven't felt so. . .relaxed for a long time.

December 2008 has been my worst month in a lot of months I've gone through so far. I suffered 2 losses, a love and a loved one. I haven't felt so down in a long time. My heart broke twice in that month. If anyone every asked me to experience it again for a million dollars, I'd rather keep a feeling of a healing heart than take the materialistic item. I never want my heart to shatter twice in one month ever again. I wish I can guarantee myself with that, but I can't.

This month, January, I've had 3-4 people tell me they'll be in support of me if anything goes wrong. Just for now, things are getting slightly better.

One of the best things about this month was probably finally being able to be friends with someone who went through drama with me last year & had a broken friendship until now. I'm happy that we're finally talking again.

Right now, I think. . .I might have feelings for a guy. . .the size of a grain of sand. haha. But overall, my heart doesn't belong to anyone right now. Dealing with the heart is tiring. The guy who I loved has moved on, & I'm beginning to, too.

"Sometimes the cards we are dealt are not always fair. However you must keep smiling & moving on."
-- Tom Jackson

Sunday, January 11, 2009

I've messed up.

Lately, I've found out that I screw up so many things & I'll never be able to fix them.

My first is having a friend who I assumed wrong & I think she will never forgive me. I wish she knew how sorry I am. I've said things that were definitely not necessary and what I said was wrong & harsh. I tried to be friends with her again after things happened & then I screwed up the friendship again. Now, every time I see her, I feel sick to the stomach & scared, thinking that I'm passing by someone who might despise me.

My second is being annoying to someone who was so close to me. I let a relationship get in the way between us and it cut off our friendship, without us knowing it. Though supposedly we made a promise to be best friends, it isn't like how it used to be anymore. A 3 year friendship was destroyed by a 5 month relationship. This is what truly breaks my heart.

My third is when I was little, I used to be connected with my cousins and were close to all of them but then as I entered middle school, I got consumed in friends & drifted apart from family. Now, I'm trying to make relations with them again and I'm trying to talk & get along with all my cousins again. So far, it isn't working out so well.

My fourth is in freshman year, I despised a person I befriended with in the beginning. I saw her qualities and I didn't like them. But now I'm friends with her again but I don't know how it's going right now.

So, I've screwed up many friendships in my life. I always screw it up & lose a friend, one by one. I just wish I had someone who can deal with what I throw at them. I wish there would be someone who, no matter how angry I get, how bitchy I get, how annoying I get, how moody I get, that person would always be there scolding me on how I shouldn't act that way or how that person would always be there for me to complain to & they'll give me their point of view on the situation. I just need someone who will stick with me, by my side, even if everyone walks away.

"Lose one friend, lose all friends, lose yourself."
--Unknown

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Trust.

Trust is something I've always resented because it always hurt me in the end. When I trusted someone, they end up walking out of my life one way or another. I've fully trusted 8 people in my life so far, excluding parents/family. Yes, I appreciate how they were always there for me and always had my back but in the end for some reason. . .they walk out & then our friendship isn't the same ever again. I can never give them that full trust that I gave to them in the beginning. Sometimes I wonder if I can find someone who will truly be there for me, even if everyone else walks out.

Some people tell me things that are supposed to have BIG meaning but they treat it as if it doesn't mean anything to them at all.What a waste of words. THOSE are the people who destroy how special some phrases are.THAT'S the reason why I don't give my trust to ANYONE. Because how the hell should I know who MEANS what they say & who DOESN'T?

Some have said that they loved me, but actually in reality, they only like me. That destroys the special meaning of "I love you."
Some have told me that they'll always be there for me, through thick and thin, but actually in reality, when I needed them, they weren't there for me.
Some have told me they'll never turn their back on me, but actually in reality, they walk right out of my life when something goes wrong.
Some called me a best friend & said we'll always be best friends no matter what, but actually in reality, we suddenly drift apart and never become friends again, especially the way we were in the beginning.

Why bother wasting your breath on empty words?

"It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it."
--Unknown
"Love all, trust a few."
--William Shakespeare

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Memories haunt me.

I was just reading my old xanga entries from 2006-2007. Wow how things have changed. Haha. Yup. Those were the days. But when I read some of them, it's as though I'm reliving something for the 2nd time because before each entry, I typed a feeling I had about stupid love. . .and it matches how I feel a little right now.

Today, I didn't feel well. Not catching a cold, but just. . .a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I hate that feeling.

I'd really like to go somewhere FAR from the United States soon. Traveling is the one thing I hope I'm able to do VERY soon. I'd like to finally get out of the place where I've been stuck in my whole life. I'm suffocating from the memories and old routine.

"I have memories - but only a fool stores his past in the future."
--David Gerrold

I guess I'm a fool.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Just another day. . .

Today is the 2nd day of school after winter break. Finals are coming up in 3 weeks. -_- Woooo.

I still get the same little feeling everytime I see him. Everytime he's near. Everytime I just think about seeing him soon. That's why I'm sometimes a little glad to not see him. All I do is lie to myself where he is, so it will discourage me into having that little feeling. It's been a little over a month now & my heart is still in the same place as it was since June14th. Time is passing me by too fast.

I am going to be attending my first funeral in my life soon. Things are going to be rough: Sounds of crying, silent sounds of heartaches, and the looks on those who are mourning. & I will be one of those people.

Things still aren't looking up for me. I'm trying so hard to push myself forward. My body may be anywhere but my heart & part of my mind remains in place.

I wish I can tell him I love him again and him telling me he loves me back too (and mean it). But who am I kidding? Those are my only wishes & ever since Dec1st on, I don't believe in wishes coming true anymore. I used to wish on dandelions and a wish that I hoped for the most actually came true. ..but it came crumbling to pieces.

I guess I'm just typing whatever's on my mind today. Blah.

"There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go."
-- Author Unknown

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Reminisce.

Just from my AIM profile:
I miss him. I miss when he used to say silly sweet things to me on the phone. I miss how he used to always want me extremely happy, even if it didn't benefit him. I miss how we'd always sneak up on each other and poke each other on the cheeks. I miss how we'd stick together like peanutbutter and jelly, wherever I was, he'd be there too. I miss how he said dummii things and it'd always make me laugh. I miss how we used to go out & have a load of fun at the movies. I miss how he gave me all his love & how he'd always be there for me. I miss how he was my best friend. I miss how he'd always wait for me after my class. I miss how we'd pass notes to each other every other period. I miss how he'd offer me a hug & pretend to be sad when I pretended to refuse. I miss how he'd always listen to what I've got to say and he'd put in his opinion too. I miss how he was the person that I would always turn to. I miss trusting him with all my heart. I miss how he called exactly at 9 so we can talk until 10. I miss how he'd always understand me. I miss how we talked about how we would stay together for a lifetime and future plans we'll do. I miss how he pretended to propose to me, I'd say yes, and I'd give him a funny feeling inside. I miss how he'd always wait for me. I miss how he'd always put up with me. I miss everything. I miss 61408.

I had feelings for him since freshman year but I didn't even notice until sophomore year. We treated each other differently from everyone else. The only difference between us was he knew he had feelings for me, when I didn't know I had feelings for him at all.

But I screwed everything up. I screwed up one of the best opportunities that I can get. I had to have some sort of crappy attitude. I had to be a stupid idiot about everything. I had to be a clingy bitch every moment. Something about me made us not last. If I knew what, I would take it back & start all over again. I want another chance to show him I can be his support, be his love, be his best friend.

. . .but that chance isn't going to come by.

All I can do is think back to the past.

"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."
-- Kahlil Gibran

Saturday, January 3, 2009

First day of blogging.

Today I guess I'll start to blog because Sean told me to so I can vent. Haha.

At the rate of how things are going right now, I just wish to move somewhere far from here because there are too many memories stacked upon each other. My mind is overfilled with events that have happened & events I wish could have happened. All I do is regret and watch everything pass me by. I want to step into tomorrow's events but part of me is still stuck in yesterday.

Blaah. I don't know. I guess I'm just rambling.

"When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us. "
-- Alexander Graham Bell